In less than a month, N will be turning 3 and I am so excited! This year I am throwing him a proper birthday party and inviting all his school friends. We have been to many birthday parties of his friends so it will be nice for N to finally have his own turn. I am beyond excited about it as my Mum used to throw me wonderful parties too so I am throwing myself into it with wild abandon. Another factor is the previous two birthdays were tough for me and I just didn’t have the energy to do something more formal, whereas now I feel more capable.
And the final reason, because N is obsessed with birthdays! He loves singing happy birthday, blowing candles out and all the party paraphernalia that comes with it. Last week was daddy’s birthday and he buzzed all day with the excitement of the cake and the candles. His head is going to explode with excitement for his own birthday. I cannot wait!
I created a birthday invitation from an editable template on Etsy. This was so super easy and inexpensive – I highly recommend it. N is obsessed with construction vehicles at the moment – cranes, diggers, dump trucks etc – so I chose a construction themed design. I have had lots of really positive feedback about it which is so nice.
Another recent development has been the return to nursery school – hallelujah! Finally nursery schools and kindergartens were allowed to reopen with a monster list of strange and somewhat ludicrous requirements. For example, I am required to send N’s lunch to school in disposable containers and they can’t put the food in the fridge so I had to send it in a cool bag which is obviously reusable. Parents are not allowed in the school and at drop off there is a big process that involves disinfecting hands, spraying the soles of the kid’s shoes and taking his temperature. I find these measures a bit ridiculous as his bag and clothes and the kid themselves may well transmit the germs but we do these things anyway.
The return to school was not without drama though. The first few days were like starting over. There was howling and crying, some begging to stay home and lots of “NO SCHOOL, MUMMY!” On day one I arrived at work a complete mess. Over the next few days things got better and now N happily goes to school in the mornings, even carrying his own bag. It is a big transition from staying at home and doing whatever you like to the structure of school, but I think N is better for the interaction with his classmates.
To coincide with the return to school, N has suddenly become super clingy to me and now requires me to stay in his room to fall asleep. I am not terribly happy about this new development as I worked so hard to make sure he was able to fall asleep independently, but he seems to be going through a really huge transition right now and thus I am riding this one out. My plan is to slowly ease off the role I play in bedtime so that I can once again kiss him goodnight and just walk out.
And another wonderful coincidence in this period is that N has suddenly developed a stutter. His language development has been slow all along and we have been toying with the idea of taking him to a speech therapist, but the sudden onset of a stutter was the final motivation I needed to make it happen. Last Monday we met with a specialist recommended to me by a friend and I really liked this lady. She had an air about her that made me feel like I made the right decision to come. She pointed out a few things that N can work on, such as his active vocabulary and his pronunciation as well as indicated he talks out of the side of his mouth. I don’t yet know what that’s all about but I will probably need to schedule a dentist appointment for N to rule out anything teeth-wise. Of course, the first question she asked me is whether he uses a dummy/pacifier but I have managed to wean that use down to only at night when he’s sleeping. Following the meeting with the speech therapist on Monday, N has started parroting new words and phrases like never before which is kind of an ironic twist. How I see it is that this will be a little boost to help him on his way. A short-term kind of thing until he gets confidence and is able to keep up with his peers.
One of my friends made a good point that if he cannot communicate effectively that he might struggle on a social level, which I find highly relatable. He doesn’t seem to struggle too much on a social level now, but I think he might going forward if he doesn’t reach the same level of language as his peers.
Summer has kicked in properly over this way so we have started to go to the beach. N has always loved the beach and water generally and he radiates joy during summer. He is fearless in the sea and even if the water splashes over his head and goes up his nose he just laughs and carries on. Given he is now obsessed with construction he also loves all the digging at the beach. Good times ahead.
Our house build is slowly, painfully coming closer to finishing. Honestly, no one ever build a house. It is so incredibly frustrating. But, when it is finally done (please be done this summer) we will have a really nice place and a swimming pool. Sadly it won’t be ready in time for N’s birthday so we are hosting it at his grandparents’ house instead. Those of you that remember his birthday last year will recall how they bailed out of his birthday on the day and so at least this year there is no way to avoid it if it’s at their house. One of my friends has suggested I made sure I drink some bubbly in the afternoon before the event so as to best deal with whichever family member inevitably makes me upset. It really made me laugh. It is also very, very good advice. Nothing like drunk hosting 20 kids plus parents to really make a great party! Wish me luck!