I don’t want to jinx myself, but I’ve got to say the past few days have been pretty good with baby N. Each day he seems to take leaps and bounds in his development and he is such a smiler! His huge toothless smile and funny laughs greet me each morning when he wakes up which almost makes up for the fact that he’s making me get up sometime around 6am! If I wasn’t keeping this blog anonymous, I’d post 100 photos of his gorgeous smile here as it’s impossible not to be cheered up by it.
Over the past week the only evenings I had significant challenges with him were Tuesday and Wednesday nights, but this is because the poor guy had his immunisations on Tuesday and he wasn’t feeling his best. He was incredibly brave during the jabs – much more brave than I was. We went there and he was all smiles and laughs so I was feeling like a terrible person for subjecting him to the suffering. He was looking in my eyes and smiling when they made the first injection and his little face showed first the shock and then he stuck his bottom lip out and did a whimper. For the second injection a minute or so later he did a bit of a cry but then I picked him up and cuddled him and he stopped crying within a minute. So brave!!
The immunisations clearly had an impact on him though as he spent the rest of the afternoon asleep. When I picked him up to feed him in the evening he was all limp and kind of whiny. Not crying really but making some little squeaking noises. I checked and he didn’t have a temperature, but he also looked like he was feeling pretty awful so I gave him a dose of Calpol (paracetamol). The super-sweet flavour of it took him by surprise, but within 15 minutes of administering the dose he was back to smiling and laughing. Although I had no problem getting him down for his evening sleep, he had a restless night waking up many times and needing re-settling so I was exhausted! I still managed to go to my yoga class but I was definitely not very good at it and had to cancel the rest of the day’s activities as I was in pieces. When hubby came home in the evening I had to get him to take over the baby duties so I could have a nap as I was wiped out and very teary.
But then by Thursday, baby N was feeling much better and so we had a nicer day. We went for coffee with a friend of mine who had recently gotten engaged and he was an angel baby sleeping through all of our gossipy chats. I had to tell my friend MULTIPLE times that it’s not always this easy, but I don’t think she believed me.
Age: 10 weeks
Weight: There was no weigh-in this week, but I’m confident he’s now over 6kg. As I carry him around for most of the day I have noticed that my arms are getting much more strong and my biceps are pretty impressive. Who needs the gym when you have a baby!
Feeding: I’ve noticed for the past week that baby N has generally been more tired and more hungry so I think he may also be going through some kind of growth spurt. Whereas we were feeding him 120ml each time, we then started to give him a couple of 150ml feeds towards the end of last week. Now I am giving him 150ml more often than not. Clearly he’s a growing boy! We joke that if we only give him 120ml these days he will eat all of that and then start to munch the bottle!
Sleeping routine: I have noticed that the baby has become easier to put down in the evenings to sleep. A couple of times last week I realised he was not tired in the early evening, after some decent late afternoon sleeps so I delayed his bathtime/bedtime until he started to show some signs of being tired. There is a fine balance between showing signs of tiredness and a full-on overtired breakdown so you have to keep a close eye on this. However, by waiting until he’s properly tired to put him to bed, he’s a lot easier to convince to sleep. Yesterday we had a busy day out for lunch and strolling about in the afternoon and so he didn’t nap very solidly. I was conscious of this so put him down for a power nap at around 6pm last night before we had given him a bath… but he had other ideas and woke up at midnight. So we skipped the bath!
Tonight he was looking pretty exhausted at 7pm so I popped him in the bath, gave him a nice feed, did some singing to him (tonight’s choice “A Beautiful Mess” by Jason Mraz) and he was asleep by 8pm. Given what an appalling singer I am perhaps he just went to sleep as it was better than listening to me wail on. Whatever the case, he looks pretty cosy in there now so I’m pleased.
Generally when he goes down to bed at around that time at night he goes right through to about 2am or 3am and has a feed. The sleep that follows this is usually much more disturbed though so I find that I might get up a couple more times during this period to re-settle him. This is also because of the magical head pillow he uses – he kicks his legs about so much during his lighter sleeps that he bounces himself off the pillow. Interestingly he cries when he’s off the pillow so he must prefer to be on it.
The disturbed sleep that I get from around 3am until 6am really does suck and means that even though I might log 6-7 hours in bed, only about 3-4 of those hours are consistent, decent sleep. I’m sure that baby N will continue to improve his sleeping and get even better at self-soothing – I’ve seen good progress in this area already – so I am staying calm about this for now.
Firsts: Vaccinations – arrrrrrrgggghh! He was so stoic though and I was very proud of him. I’ve also noticed he now realises his hand belongs to him and I caught him staring at his fist as he moved it across his line of sight. That was pretty funny.
He’s also quite obsessed with patterns, colours and shadows so I’ll often find him staring, open-mouthed at something like a picture or a light-fitting. It does make you look at the world around you a lot more differently.
Hair: Still growing! He’s still about 10 years off having a ponytail though (this is a good thing).
Eyes: Getting darker! My baby is going to have brown eyes for sure.
Wonky neck update: I have really noticed a big improvement in baby N’s neck strength this past week and feel pleased that all the carrying about and special exercises are having an impact. At today’s baby physio session she was also delighted with his improvement. He was doing so many new exercises with her and all holding his head up unaided. I can see he gets more alert now he has a strong neck and that means he can see more stuff around him which feeds his curiosity. I am now more convinced than ever that leaving your baby passively somewhere like a playmate or a bouncer/swing is not helpful to their development.
Mummy update: I’ve had a pretty good time of late. With the exception of Wednesday when the exhaustion was immense, I have been functional, cheerful and maybe even… happy! I know right?! How crazy is that?!
I’ve been able to get out and about and do some things that make me feel semi-normal. Sometimes this is with the baby and sometimes I have been letting some others babysit him briefly. I do miss him after an hour or so, but it’s good for us both to spend a little time away from each other.
I have continued to keep up with the regular exercise with two yoga sessions and a gym session last week. I also took the baby to the park a couple of times so some brisk walking around there has also been good for getting my heart pumping. I’ve still not lost any more weight than previously, but I think I need to crack down on my diet to really make an impact there.