Learning how to be parents

Ladies of blogland, you are brilliant!  Thank you for all the kind comments following my last post and for helping me feel better about myself again.  You are all brilliant people and it’s an honour to be a part of your sisterhood.

The past few days have been about a million times better than last week because now I am pretty much in no pain.  I do get a little stiff when I sit down too long, especially at work, but it is really nothing compared to the bad situation I was in a week ago. I honestly do not know how people in chronic and constant pain cope with it.

This week has also been one full of developments.  We met with our paediatrician on Monday and it was a great meeting. I already knew a little about her as she is very well known locally and highly respected. She also doesn’t take new patients, so it was a bit of a coup that I managed to get her to accept us (my colleague who is expecting a few days after me was turned down by her). Some of the reasons I was so keen to have her look after our baby – other than the fact that she’s English so I find her more relatable culturally – is that she’s all about skin-to-skin after birth and breastfeeding as she’s a lactation specialist.  I was also delighted that she confirmed she doesn’t prescribe antibiotics very liberally, whereas the tendency of most local doctors here is to give antibiotics if you so much sneeze in front of them.

During our meeting she took a bit of a medical history from my husband and I, and we chatted through what she will do with the baby after he’s born.  Because it will be a c-section there is a bit more that can be planned. We also confirmed that we are happy for her to give the baby a vitamin K injection shortly after birth as she explained this can help to prevent newborns from having a bleed on the brain. This was a very easy decision to make.

She will also visit me and the baby every day for the first week to check in on us and offer support with the breastfeeding, which is amazing.  She even does home visits once we leave the clinic and head home.  I’ve got to say I kind of love her! Even hubby was delighted with her – not that I gave him much of a choice – so it was a positive thing all round.

Today we headed to the first of our antenatal classes which are run by a wonderful former midwife who also coincidentally took care of me during my surgery to have a large fibroid removed three years ago.  We instantaneously developed a special connection back then and have stayed in touch ever since, so it makes the whole experience feel so much more natural and friendly. By coincidence, we were the only couples booked onto the course today so it turned out to be a private session.

This particular session was focused on the what would happen during the c-section, recovery afterwards and the basics of how to look after the baby in the first few days. There are other courses that cover labour and natural delivery, but I have opted out of these as they seem somewhat pointless in my situation.

Some of the information I already knew or was taught at the breastfeeding seminar I went to a few weeks ago, but what was great about it was that my husband was practically forced to listen and learn.  He did get into it, though I think he felt a bit awkward at times.  He was coached as to how to change a nappy/diaper – which he has never done in his entire life (to be fair, I’ve only changed one myself and it was a wet one, not a poo one) – and it was hilarious. He gave it a good shot and it all feels a bit silly when you’re messing about with a doll, but still I think he’s going to get peed on – or worse – a few times before he masters this.  Hahahaha!

I think a lot of the session was a reality check for him.  I think in his head he thought his main role would be to run about and get meals ready while I look after all things baby. However, it was pointed out to him multiple times during the session that actually he will need to change the baby a lot of the time and maybe even be in charge of bathing him. Let’s see how all this goes in reality….

Another highlight of today was receiving the delivery of our baby room furniture which includes a cot bed, chest of drawers with a built in change table area on top and the Moses basket with stand.  As they came during the work day and hubby had to come home to take delivery they are currently all over the place in the baby room.  Once we get everything in place and looking lovely I’ll be sure to show some photos.

I am quite surprised by how gigantic the cot bed looks, especially compared to the Moses basket. I appreciate that the baby will grow to fit nicely in the cot bed, but right now it looks like it is dominating the room.  The cats have gone bananas for the new furniture so I have my work cut out making sure they don’t think they are allowed to sleep in the cot bed! A compressed air spray is currently coming in very handy for making them aware that this is a no-go area.

As for baby, he continues to be very active.  It’s really getting painful when he moves about now and I even asked him out loud yesterday to calm down as it’s impossible to think straight when he’s shifting around. The bump continues to blow my mind with how huge it’s getting and even hubby is starting to marvel at the magic of pregnancy. Long may the good times continue!

7 thoughts on “Learning how to be parents

  1. Yay, baby furniture!

    Also – not common in the USA (no surprise) – we do not have a doctor/nurse/midwife visit us at home. We have to go to the doctor’s office. At least ours is only 1 mile down the road.

    I haven’t heard of the Vitamin K injection. I wonder if it’s a thing here…

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    1. To be fair I’m at a private clinic with a private paediatrician. If I was going public which is the norm in UK and Australia I would defo not get daily visits!! Where I am it’s common to go to a private clinic unless you are on a low income. The public hospital is fine but it’s a large ward situation and so probably not as supportive.
      Do look into the vitamin k thing. It seems to be standard in the UK but I don’t know about US.


  2. The new paediatrician sounds great! So nice she’s able to fit you in. Good idea for the parenting class and for hubby to practice on a doll. There was a time in the old days where some men would refuse to change nappies but luckily modern men just get on with it which is only fair 😉

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    1. I have my doubts as to how many nappies my hubby will get involved with. Let’s see. I left a comment on your blog but it didn’t show up. Arrgggghhh! How are you?


      1. oh no, that’s annoying. I think there’s some issue between wordpress bloggers leaving comments on blogger blogs. Wasn’t able to find any solution when I looked into it before unfortunately. I’m ok… pretty up and down! Some days I feel calm and hopeful, other days I feel like a wreck convinced it hasn’t worked and terrified of getting the result. One week down, one week to go.

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      2. Ok I’ll try commenting in future just as AKL and you’ll know it’s me. I do read your posts though!! I think going from calm to a wreck is absolutely reasonable and to be expected. There are not many things more stressful than IVF. I am wishing so hard for good things for you in whatever shape they come. xxx


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