Seriously, you can’t make this stuff up

~ A

Firstly, I think everything is fine with the baby on board.  I’m now 13 weeks and 4 days and mainly weaned off my supporting meds.  We got the DNA test results yesterday and they show no signs of any chromosomal issues, for which we are very grateful.  The greatest issue of late has not been baby-related specifically but rather that I keep getting sick.  Following my lovely bout of bronchitis, I got something new over the weekend that was kind of a flu-ish virus which then manifested itself into runny/blocked nose and a reintroduction of my unsociable bronchitis cough.  #funtimes

What I cannot get my head around, however, is how the world works so strangely sometimes.  I’ve mentioned before that I have a colleague who is pregnant and due in April and so my pregnancy news – which is slowly leaking out – now makes us two pregnant women in a team of 5 people at work.  Hmmmm….

Then today out of the blue, another colleague of mine revealed to me that she too is pregnant and would you believe her due date is merely DAYS after mine.  So that is 3 people out of a team of 5 who are pregnant simultaneously.  Holy cow!  On a practical level, I’ve no idea what is going to happen to the work stuff in the middle of this year or who is going to be doing it.  On a personal level, how on EARTH can it be that in a team of 5 there can be 2 women due days apart?

My colleague who announced her pregnancy is a nice person and it’s great news for her, but we have a lot of crossover also in our non-work lives (hello, small community!) so I feel a bit like my baby news has been diluted.  Also, she got pregnant in her first month after getting off the pill!!!!

I know this is daft and selfish and all other bad descriptions but that’s how I feel and this is my blog so I am able to reveal uncomfortable truths.  It means that our children will forever be compared to each other and I guess so will we as parents.  I told my husband tonight and he was really understanding of why I felt deflated but he reassured me that it’s not about her or anyone else.  It’s about us celebrating that we have (hopefully) got a very healthy, happy baby coming soon after a long journey to get pregnant. He’s right of course, but isn’t it a bit weird?  Don’t you think that someone who controls these things is trying to teach me to be a better person?  To challenge me to overcome my insecurities?  Sheesh, they could have found a nicer way to do so!

27 thoughts on “Seriously, you can’t make this stuff up”

  1. That is pretty funny that you guys are due days apart! I wouldn’t want to be your boss at the moment!! Totally get how you are feeling RE having your news diluted – dammit, you’ve been waiting for ages for this…. and as you say, this is your blog, and we are anonymous ears so go ahead – vent 😀

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    1. Thanks so much. It’s really got to me when I realise it shouldn’t. It’s a bit like when you’d get something new as a kid and you’d find the next door neighbour got the exact same thing. You still love your thing but you just wish they could have gotten something different this once dammit!!

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      1. To be honest I’m just not thinking about it too much…I don’t have to see her everyday like you have to see your colleague. Also it’s not the first family pregnancy I’ve had to deal with…my younger sister fell pregnant from a one night stand when we were 2 years in to our fertility journey and then got married and within a year had had another baby…so I guess I’m pretty over worrying about other people’s pregnancies, lol!

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      2. Yeah. They’re good points. Wow! One night stand?! I think I’m going to have to suck it up and embrace the shared experience instead.

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  5. My best friend got off the pill and fell pregnant immediately after we had our transfer. Because “it was okay for her to start trying since we got our + on the 16th” and she called me the 20th because they did the deed that day and wanted to know if I thought she would get pregnant.. low and behold from that ONE TIME she did. I felt exactly the same, although she is constantly rubbing it in how easily she got pregnant… I think we are just more sensitive to these things because it took so much – especially in your case. ❤ so glad things are going well (other than the sicknesses)

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    1. Oh wow!! That is serious planning! Not sure I could be as cool about it as you have been! I think my situ was a bit more accidental but I guess the biggest loser out of all this is our employer as we are the two most senior people and they are going to have to find a way to replace us both simultaneously!! I think I’ll chill about it soon once the initial shock/irritation passes. I just hope we have a lovely healthy and beautiful baby. I also hope mine comes first in case she steals my baby names!! Hahahaha!

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      1. Well, to be fair we don’t talk much anymore. She kept saying things about how “oh well if anything happens to this pregnancy we will just have another” (mind you this is after we lost one 🙄) so I think that friendship is pretty much going down the drain. Lol.
        Oh geez!!! I’m not sure that could happen again if it was planned! Lol.
        😂 I don’t blame you! Lyndsey didn’t want to tell anyone so that wouldn’t happen! I never realized that was a thing people actually did!! Are you guys going to find out gender?

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      2. I don’t blame you. I think I’d lose my sh1t at your friend pretty quickly!! Yes we will find out but not yet. I can ask my doctor anytime as we did the DNA test so it would have been identified then. How about you?

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      3. I thought so – but you hadn’t mentioned it so I though maybe you weren’t finding out! Yeah, we found out that she’s a girl at 17 weeks! They’ve confirmed it every time since – so I’m hoping that doesn’t change. Lol!

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      4. Oh that’s lovely!! I’d like a girl and I’m afraid to get the results in case I’m disappointed. I know how ridiculous that is and I will be v happy I’m sure with any gender as long as they’re healthy but I really want a girl!!

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      5. I kept saying I knew it was going to be a boy because I was scared to hope for a girl and be disappointed! So I understand the feeling! I think it’s acceptable to wish for a girl, because you know that you’re going to love a little boy and be just as thankful for one! When is your next ultrasound?

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      6. Yes. That’s a good way to look at it. Although someone I know predicted both Brexit and Trump and he’s sure it’s a boy… Next appt is 10 Feb but might have to change it as it looks like hubby won’t be here then due to a short work trip.

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      8. Oh yes. It’s not hard to squeeze in. My doctor is very nice to me. It’s at a private clinic and he does both IVF and OBGYN so it’s not like a huge hospital where appointments are hard to come by. I can text my doctor and he replies back quickly. I’m very lucky in that regard!!

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  6. Aw you poor thing! It’s so normal for you to feel upset by your coworker’s news/situation. I totally feel you, my sister-in-law announced she was pregnant the same week I did. EVERYONE compared our pregnancies. I felt so much pressure to have my baby first (luckily I did, 10 days before her) that it took away from a lot of the fun. Also the entire first year of our boys’ lives it was a competition. Who’s going to crawl/walk/talk/etc. first? Ughh.

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    1. Thank you!!! The comparison stuff is what I’m worried about. My SIL had her baby a year ago and then I had my first miscarriage so that was not good either. I am so super grateful she is not the one preggo at the same time as me because I genuinely think I’d have to leave the country!!! I hope things calmed down for you and the competitions though. That must be exhausting !!

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      1. Yes it got pretty good there for about a year and then we both got pregnant again around the same time 🙄 Pregnancy and the first year when alllllll the “firsts” happen was when most people compared us like crazy. Now it’s more chill….or maybe I just handle it better now 🙂 funny how much of that stuff you forget over time though. It’s just not important in the long run.

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